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Once the marriage proposal has been accepted, one of the most important decisions the bride-to-be has to make is whoto ask to be the bridesmaids.
According to Wikipedia, “Bridesmaids are members of the bride’s party in a wedding. A bridesmaid is typically a young woman, and often a close friend or sister.”
When you don’t have a short-list of possibles bridesmaids, here’s guidance of how to whittle down your shortlist:
Loyalty and honor— Girl Scouts across the U.S. sing a song about friendship that has the following lyrics:“Make new friends, but keep the old. One is silver and the other’s gold.”This one’s easy. If you have still managed to keep in touch with your oldest friends then honoring their loyalty with choosing them is a good strategy.
The spoilt brat— Weddings are a wonderful life event, but they tend to bring out the very best and very worst in those who partake. What you do not want to do is choose a bridesmaid that you must babysit or handhold on your Big Day. There will already be enough stress as it is.
Keep your friends close, your bridesmaids closer— Those who reside closer to you are better able to help with th effort it takes to pull off the big day. Whether it means helping by taking over some chores, running some errands, helping with fitting the wedding dress, helping to decide on the invites, and a million other seemingly insignificant issues.
Marital Support— a great consideration to take into account is how the individual supports your relationship and appreciates your future spouse. Having women around you who will help your marriage through the years is a great idea. As opposed to enrolling the help of naysayers standing alongside you as you say your wedding vows and embark on newlywed life.
Helpful contributer— Your bridesmaids are meant to help you in the planning of your wedding and during your wedding day. They also contribute vitally to planning your bridal shower and bachelorette party. Selecting women who are just not that into you or your big day can be a let down. This choice of bridesmaids can leave you with more work than you anticipated. On the other hand, if you are and easy go with the flow person you may want similar minded friends as bridesmaids to avoid feeling over planned or pressured.
Family Pressure— You may initally think that your wedding is supposed to be all about you and your husband to be, but your family and future family-in-law may have other ideas. In order to keep the familial peace you may find that you need to accept other siblings as part of your wedding train. Be prepared for this is face family tension in future years.
The tips above will help you make an informed decision and avoid stumbling blindly into a choice of bridesmaid you could later come to regret.